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Sitting Frogs: My unequal femininity

Every now and then I have a ‘smash-the-phone-in-the-wall’ moment. I like my Smartphone. It’s a Blackberry curve 4, I think or 5. It may not be as up to date as an iPhone (frankly I don’t get what the hype … Continue reading

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Self Love for Fear of Abandonment – Spending time with me

I was just about to freak out that Shane had just left abruptly, tempting to ruin my sombre Sunday afternoon. I kicked into Wise mind and thought: Seriously, Steph, no feature of the house has changed since he left. No … Continue reading

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Confessions of BPD: General Anxiety and Panic Attacks

So, I’ve got myself a new hairstyle! The straggly ends of which keep giving me mini pseudo heart attacks. Having an acute Startle reflex/response is an embarrassing and sometimes hilarious aspect of living with Anxiety disorder. I remember as a child, finding … Continue reading

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Nope, Not my Period

This cannot be the end of the sentence. Here I am, precariously perched, hanging on for dear life, waiting for a semi colon, a ‘however’, a ‘but’, an ‘in spite of’? Any preposition signalling a turning point in the road … Continue reading

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Forgiveness does NOT come first. Finding yourself does!

My therapist had said a strange thing: “Don’t worry about forgiving your abuser; let’s work on you forgiving yourself first, on healing ‘Stephanie’” In my experience, forgiveness comes with processing the wrong that has been done to you. Not merely … Continue reading

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Who needs a relationship when you have a cause?

On relationships and other distractions…. I’m addicted to planning, clearly…. It’s the Virgo in me.  I’m also slightly Leon which is a relief, I’ve never felt like a true Virgo anyway…And you are wondering what the hell I’m talking about . … Continue reading

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Shedding Cultural Skin: Part 1

Disclaimer #1: I am hardly an expert on Jamaican culture in fact I fail miserably at grasping most of our accepted ways of thinking and behaving… Most of our die hard beliefs lack logic, reasoning of any form and are … Continue reading

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Happy Black History Month

The idea that a man’s value should be determined by the shade of his skin is one that we have long done away with. What of mental slavery? Let’s also do away with determining one’s value by the way they … Continue reading

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You think…

You love something, but you don’t.. Not if you want to own it, suffocate it, have it fulfil your selfish desires, quiet your monstrous insecurities, and never let it be itself…

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