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These Middle Men though…

It has taken me some time to be able to articulate this in order to have it come across in a way that doesn’t seem spiteful or bitter or sounds like some form of revenge. Now I know I can … Continue reading

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Perfectionism, the legalistic church and shame

The sense of guilt is dumb. It does not tell him he’s guilty, he does not feel guilty. He feels ill. – Freud, 1923 I have been taking a close look at guilt lately. Why? ***trigger warning*** I had an … Continue reading

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Forgiveness does NOT come first. Finding yourself does!

My therapist had said a strange thing: “Don’t worry about forgiving your abuser; let’s work on you forgiving yourself first, on healing ‘Stephanie’” In my experience, forgiveness comes with processing the wrong that has been done to you. Not merely … Continue reading

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Into the mind of the Sylph…

Most of what we absorb on a daily basis in our conscious and sub-conscious are untrue messages which unknowingly affect our self-image, value and esteem. Picture being in a room of noxious invisible fumes…slowly forming cancerous plaques on our lungs. … Continue reading

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A night well spent.

Its funny how you get inspired in the most unlikely places. We rode in numbing silence to the hospital after getting the call that my son had experienced yet another febrile convulsion ( a high unresponsive fever that triggers off … Continue reading

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The lifting of the edges….

A man told his grandson: “A terrible fight is going on inside me — a fight between two wolves. One is evil, and represents hate, anger, arrogance, intolerance, and superiority. The other is good, and represents joy, peace, love, tolerance, … Continue reading

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Sylphe or Stephanie? Who Am I?

In 2010/2011 while pursuing a graduate degree in Public Health, I was diagnosed (albeit self) with two incurable, untreatable diseases: Psoriasis, an immune condition of the skin triggered by stress and Bi-polar disorder, a mental health illness resulting in severe … Continue reading

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More religio-psychobabble…

Deciphering the psychosocial wrangling of the apostolic world and its far reaching implications renders advanced economics and statistics to child’s play. lol In thinking and re thinking the psychology of religion, I have stumbled upon too many negative effects which … Continue reading

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